There was a time not so long ago where I was the popular Wolfe. Every one wanted to talk about me and see pictures of my growing tummy. It seems that was quickly and easily replaced with Eden who is clearly now the most popular Wolfe. I understand and I’m not complaining (too much) but I just thought everyone should know that I am aware that I am not as exciting as I once was. So, for an update on Miss Eden…

It’s hard to believe that she has only been with us a little over two weeks. I think we have all adjusted pretty well. Ben has had a harder time adjusting to the lack of sleep but I had the advantage of getting up every few hours during the night before Eden came because of little Andy anyway. Our daytime routine is pretty settled, but the nights are still a work in progress.

She is changing and growing so fast. She loves to walk behind the little car at the Sally Test Center and she can do that all by herself now. She has learned how to drink out of her sippy cup and pulls herself up on everything. A few days ago she started letting go and standing alone and she is able to do it for a pretty long time now. She gets a big smile on her face and holds her hands up in the air. She is going to be walking in no time. She is very good at waving and waves at everyone (and sometimes no one) and also talks all the time. She likes to end her “sentences” very loudly for emphasis.

The lawyer is filing for an emergency adoption order again hopefully sometime next week. Apparently there is a different judge that he is going to file with and he is feeling optimistic. We have also started the process of getting a birth certificate for her and will hopefully complete that on Monday. Then we can get her passport and then the visa. Keep praying that everything goes well and quickly!

Wow, time is flying! I feel like we just posted our 20 week update. Andy is moving all the time now. He likes to kick Eden when she sleeps on my belly and he gets very active at night when I lay down. That makes sleep even more challenging because every time I get up with Eden, I have to wait about 10-15 minutes for Andy to stop moving after I get back in bed.

Ben was finally able to feel Andy on Oct. 25. He was very excited and says that it seems a lot more real now.

I had my first OB visit here a couple weeks ago and Sierra said that everything looked great and she was very happy with me until the end of my appointment when she weighed me. I had lost a couple of pounds since my last check-up in Indianapolis and that got me in trouble. She told me to make sure that I am eating enough and trying to get 6 smaller meals in instead of just 3 big ones. It’s hard because we’re so busy and the food options are pretty limited here, but I have gained 3 pounds since my appointment, so I think I’m doing pretty well.

You can see that my stomach has really grown these last four weeks. I’ve had lots of comments recently about how big I am getting and I’ve even found my clothes are fitting differently. My shirts suddenly seem much shorter in the front. We bumped the ultrasound back to my next appointment so we will just do everything on November 13. We will be sure to take pictures of the ultrasound for everyone to see!

Just to cheer you all up after my last post, I uploaded two more videos of Eden today to http://wolfes.blip.tv. Sorry about the lighting on this first one. The power went out right before I got the camera. For the second one we were smart enough to realize we could open the curtains to let in more light! 🙂

Power outages here are actually rare. Pamela says that that was the first one in the year she has been there. Apparently they were repairing a transformer on a main power line that was coming out of town. Not sure why they chose a Sunday night to do that…

We’re all doing well now with Eden home. She sleeps through most of the night now…mainly because we’re letting her stay in our bed. We’ve switched to a room in the new house that has two double beds pushed together, so there’s plenty of room!

Just a reminder that our road ahead is long and laborious. The adoption process in Kenya is quite difficult. For international adoptions you 1) contact and agency in the home country 2) The agency picks out a child 3) You travel to Kenya and start living with the baby for three months (aka obtain guardianship) and then 4) After 3 months you must have three visits to the High Court to get approval. You can then get a US visa for the child and finalize things in the US. Unfortunately, the High Court is always booked 3 months in advance…so that fourth point above takes 9-12 months. :-/

For domestic adoptions you 1) obtain guardianship 2) live with the child for 3 months (maybe less) and then 3) see the high court once for the adoption. Unfortunately, the US won’t grant visas for children adopted this way. However, the US does grant visas if you can prove you have been taking care of the child for 2 years.

Due to this announcement about Kenya not really following all the Hague Convention rules, that first method isn’t really an option. At least it isn’t for the forseeable future. The goal right now is to get a temporary visa for Eden to come home with us while baby Andy is born and come back next summer/fall. If we can do that, we only need to stay in Kenya for about a year before hitting that 2 year mark (“only”!). The US embassy in Nairobi has yet to respond to my emails or answer any phone calls, so its hard to say how likely getting her a temporary visa is. It looks like a group interested in OpenMRS is going to fly me to NBO on Friday, so I’ll take that opportunity to just stop by the consulate and ask whats up. 🙂

With that out of the way, check out our video of cute little Eden from last week feeding herself. FYI: I re-encoded all of the videos on our wolfes.blip.tv video site, so now they should be faster, cleaner, and skip less. (“New and Improved! Now with less skipping!”)

I also posted a few other videos from Cape Town South Africa and the 20 min walk from the IU House to the edge of downtown Eldoret.

There are also some more pictures on the photos page, but you can probably tell that from the little box in the upper left.

So, after one additional delay (let’s just say the District Children’s Officer did not try his best to accommodate Eden coming home in a timely manner), she is home! We went to the magistrate today with an entire car load of people (a lawyer, a social worker, a rep from Sally Test, Ben, me and Eden) and met the DCO there. The lawyer said a few sentences that the magistrate wrote down, then there was some chatting in Swahili and then the magistrate formally handed Eden over to us. YEA!!

She had refused to eat anything at STC but on the car ride home she ate some banana and when we got back to the house she ate half a piece of bread, cerelax with a banana mashed in and drank a little guava juice. She still has a cough but she hasn’t thrown up today. She even drank down her medicine without any problems. After lunch we cleaned up, then I gave Eden her milk and she almost finished that before she turned over onto my chest and fell asleep. She is currently sleeping soundly for the first time in her pack-n-play. We posted some pictures and will continue to post about our many “firsts” with her.